Tuesday, August 27, 2013

Rite of Passage: FUNERAL


It would be difficult to exaggerate the importance of funerals in South African life.

Death is perceived as the beginning of a person's deeper relationship with all of creation, the complementing of life and the beginning of the communication between the visible and the invisible worlds.

The goal of life is to become an ancestor after death. This is why every person who dies must be given a "correct" funeral, supported by a number of religious ceremonies. If this is not done, the dead person may become a wandering ghost, unable to "live" properly after death and therefore a danger to those who remain alive.

Funerals also strengthen ties between neighbors and extended family, who may travel long distances to attend the funeral. More than any other single rite of passage funerals provide a focal point for family and community life.
For these reasons, funerals are elaborate, and expensive. In addition to expenses for a coffin, traditional burial blankets, and (often) a tent for the funeral, immediate family must pay to entertain mourners.
After a death, extended household members may arrive for a lengthy visit. It is expected that the immediate family of the deceased will feed mourners who have come for the funeral, for as long as they choose to stay. In addition, animals are slaughtered to honor the dead.

Keeping up with tradition is a real challenge: On average, the cost of a funeral reaches 40 % of an annual  salary.

Key facts:
  • Average annual salary for a black person leaving in the township: 7200 rand ($720)
  • Average annual salary for a black person: 12080 rand ($1208)
  • Cost of a cow (generally offered when a man dies): 2200 rand ($220)

Funeral expenses leave surviving family members vulnerable to future hardship, with spending on items such as food and clothes significantly lower following the funeral. Children in households that experienced a death are also less likely to be enrolled in school, while adults are much more likely to report problems such as symptoms of depression and periods of anxiety.
Jeanette lost her daughter last february. She is still struggling between her emotion caused by the lost of her daughter, the paying of her debt and keeping the daycare running. Sometimes, she can't even pay for the transport to her younger daughter to go to school.
Instead of being a victim of this situation, she creates a funeral fund for the women of Ivory Park! She doesn't want other women to have the same experience so she built up a project to guaranty "a pot of money" and support from the funeral found group.

Support Jeanette's project:
http://ebuhlenidaycare.causevox.com



Sunday, August 18, 2013

Thought of the day... FOR Patrick

On a daily basis, Patrick makes me laugh, he makes me think and shares with me the meaning of life and family through his eyes.
He can be so wise and funny sometimes that I frequently share his thoughts with you through this blog.

Today, I want all of us to have a though FOR Patrick: his father died yesterday night.

Patrick is the oldest child of a family of 7, his youngest sister is still studying. This very sad news now makes him the "dad" of the family. 
He is on his way to Limpopo to start the funeral process - a process which in South Africa is both extensive and expensive.

On my next post I will share with you what the funeral tradition is for the black community here in South Africa.


Find your charitable rhythm

No need to go to the township to help out, here you can find generosity on every corner.

One of the coolest examples I have seen is near Art of Main, in Joburg: a girl is coming every sunday morning to give free guitar lessons to the kids: this is free, fun, educative and inspiring ! 

Free Guitar lesson @Arts on Main



Friday, August 9, 2013

Happy Women’s Day!


Every year on 9 August South Africa celebrates Women’s Day, a public holiday that pays homage to the women of the nation – the mothers, the wives, the sisters and the daughters who fought tirelessly against the tyranny of the Apartheid government.

For me, Jeanette is the face and the heart of this commemoration. She is a woman who fights for education, human rights, food for children, for hope, for change and for every citizen of Ivory Park.

Unfortunately, hopes, dreams and hard work cannot accomplish everything and Jeanette needs some support to keep her efforts going.

On this special day, I am asking you for help: please help Jeanette to continue her efforts by supporting a kid, sponsoring a roof or electricity, helping to offer a uniform to each child…

Please help Jeanette to offer a bright start to the life of these children:

http://ebuhlenidaycare.causevox.com

Wednesday, August 7, 2013

Let's learn english


It is quite a rarity for parents to speak english in the Ivory Park township. For their children's futures, it is however absolutely essential. At the daycare centre, kids are constantly learning rhymes, words and songs.

Today, I am sharing with you the "Myself" lesson:
When in groups kids are very good at speaking (and loud to say the least!) but when they have to speak alone they have a tendency to be shy and mumble their words :-)

Here is what we teach them:

"Myself,
My name is ....
I live in Ivory Park,
My school is Ebuhleni,
I am x years old
And I am a girl/boy"



Tuesday, August 6, 2013

Thought of the day... by Patrick

"Women are like rats...

When you leave a rat alone in a room with 8kg of nuts, he will eat all of it in a couple of hours! Same thing with a woman... leave her with 2000 rand and ... aisch ... same story!"


I don't like the comparison with rats but I must agree : women have a genetic gift to spend money in a record time !